A commonly held tradition, particularly among heterosexual couples, is that wedding rings shared between partners should match and that they should match because they represent a kind of unity. It’s a nice tradition, and it’s one that some hold quite dear to them, but ultimately means very little if the couple involved don’t ascribe to it. So what should you do when deciding whether to have matching same-sex wedding rings or to buck tradition and go your own way?
Is it what you want?
When it comes to choosing wedding rings, the most important thing to keep in mind is whether it will work for both parties for the long term. It’s good to assess this early on and discuss it with your husband or wife-to-be to find out what their feelings are around such traditions and whether it’s suitable for your relationship. It’s an item of jewellery you’ll have to be comfortable wearing every day for the rest of your life, so your choice is important.
Ignore outside pressure
Sometimes, well-meaning relatives or friends will try to impose their opinions on a couple’s choices when it comes to ring choice. Simply put, these people are not living your relationship. You are. And while their opinions may be valid for the relationships they personally hold, that doesn’t mean that you need to pay attention to them. You’re the one who needs to live with your choices, and you’re the one living your relationship, so take on board whatever others may tell you, but always filter it through your own personal feelings and experience.
Create your own traditions
Whether you’ve been together for decades or just a short time, been married before or entering your first, there’s no reason why you can’t create your own tradition that’s special to just the two of you.
Your wedding rings hold special sentimental and emotional value to you both, and symbolises your endless, eternal love and devotion to each other. Adding another layer of tradition, say a combination of your cultural heritage or something that means a lot to you as a couple, could be a nice way of showing your connection to each other without opting for matching wedding bands. Adding an engraving or special design with custom rings may also express the unity that matching rings give without actually being matching.
Your ring, your style, your way
Everyone’s style is different and you should express your love for your partner any way you choose. Not everyone looks the same, nor does every style, shape, or metal suit every person or hand. Different skin tones will affect how a ring may suit one person over another, as does many other factors, so matching rings may not be the best for every couple.
Whichever way you decide to go, it’s worth having a chat with MAX Diamonds’ professional jewellers who can help you find same-sex wedding rings that you’ll both fall in love with. Ultimately, it’s your wedding and your rings, so you should be as in love with the piece of jewellery you’ll wear for the rest of your life as you are with the person you’ll be spending the rest of your life with.