4 Ways Not to Propose: A Gentleman’s Guide

Apr 8, 2021 | Engagement Stories

So you’ve decided to tie the knot – congratulations! Have you figured out how you’re going to propose to your partner yet? Whatever you decide on, remember that your partner will be telling their proposal story to all their friends and family. As such, you want to make sure that you propose in a way that’s romantic and memorable. To help you come up with some ideas, we’ve put together this handy list of what NOT to do when proposing!

Don’t: Put the ring in food

Movies have taught us that putting a diamond ring in a flute of champagne or baked into a cake is the epitome of romance, but they couldn’t be more wrong. Putting rings into food not only gets crumbs and sticky liquid in all the crevices, but there’s a very real chance that your beloved might accidentally chomp down on a diamond.

Do this instead: Take your loved one out to a delightful meal, or create their favourite recipe at home and propose to them after dinner.

Don’t: Ask at a family party

Some people like to include their family in all their major life events – like proposals! However, this can be a dangerous choice – having all your family there puts extra pressure on your partner to say yes. If they say no, everyone will be there to witness it and if they say yes, your family will immediately be there congratulating you. Your engagement is a previous moment, and having the time alone to celebrate together is important.

Do this instead: Propose beforehand and announce your news together at a family dinner.

Don’t: Do it over email or text message

You might not think people actually do this, but we’ve heard many stories of women who have been proposed to when they opened up their phone or inbox. Look, we understand that texting and emailing is convenient, but your proposal should be done in person! That way you’ll get to see the reaction of your loved one.

Do this instead: Handwrite a sweet and romantic letter expressing your feelings to your partner and hand it to them. When they look up, you’ll be there holding a ring out!

Don’t: Pop the question at someone else’s wedding

Some people will think this is a great idea. After all, it’s a romantic day, and love is already in the air. You’re both dressed up in your best clothing, surrounded by beautiful decorations, and all your friends and family are there. Even if you do get the permission of the bride and groom, we promise you that proposing at someone else’s wedding is always incredibly awkward for the other guests.

Do this instead: Plan a special event that’s just for the two of you – your partner will appreciate the effort you’ve gone through to create the perfect day.

We hope this list has given you a few ideas on how NOT to propose to your partner. But, if you’re going to do it anyway, make sure you pop the question with a stunning diamond engagement ring!

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